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WriterBSteele's avatar

I went through the thousands of e-mails in my inbox, deleted everything superfluous, and created folders for everything else to keep it all tidy. That was 8 years ago, and now I have thousands of e-mails in my inbox again, and I'm now just waiting to die when I don't have to worry about it anymore rather than go through them all doing it again.

Stevie Martin's avatar

This is it! When you do it you can never win! You just have to do it more!!!!

Claire Patronymic's avatar

This is the 4000 weeks thing! You could have zero emails - but then you’ve spent a decent portion of your life in email admin - which - great if that’s important to you - if not - I have over 2000 unread emails and the email police are yet to turn up.

Things I ShouldaNona's avatar

Over 10,000 in my inbox. I’ve been attempting to routinely unsubscribe but I can’t delete the emails in bulk in case one of them holds some unique digital essence that will ensure my family’s survival.

Ruination.

Patrick Orum's avatar

Slightly off topic, but can I suggest you buy your own domain name (easier than it sounds). Then at least your emails can come addressed to “wtiterB@steelydude.net. Or whatever you choose :-)

Andy's avatar

"Everywhere you go, always take the sink strainer with you". Crowded House / Stevie Martin colab in the midst.

Great Sub as ever, keep making us laugh and smile. Can't wait for the next gig in the South West (hint hint) 😀

Patrick Orum's avatar

Crowded House are brilliant though aren’t they!

National Union Sink Strainers's avatar

Dear Stevie,

Here at the NUSS we are delighted to read about the joy your new sink strainer has brought into your life.

This is typical of the consumer research we regularly receive and underlines our mission statement to put a sink strainer into every sink in the UK.

I’m sorry to read that your husband cannot remember where he bought it from but based on your excellent technical drawing this looks like a classic 25mm x 40mm plunge pot anti-clogger in the unisex style.

Best regards,

Wayne Fernando,

President

National Union of Sink Strainers

Sarah's avatar

Some weird psychic link going on here, my husband just bought the same amazing sink strainer after a long time of being annoyed by ones that didn’t work and it’s the same one! Here it is for everyone who now wants one (he does not delete emails) https://amzn.eu/d/0hZNWdRJ he also got the flat fish shaped thing that goes over it and acts as a plug which is also very pleasing. You’re welcome, world.

Laura Smith-Collins's avatar

Our sink came with a strainer so I’ve never taken a moment to appreciate it. New levels of gratitude reading about your struggle

Isobel Sidnie's avatar

Deleting as you go is the only way; I assume your partner is a Virgo ♍️

Stevie Martin's avatar

he’s not but I think he is one in his heart

renad!'s avatar

i have 30000 unread emails, so i’m gonna have to say ur husband is a psychopath for my own sanity!

thank you for the light read, Stevie

Patrick Orum's avatar

In reality, you have 30,000 ‘never-gonna-be-read’ emails.

Bin ‘em.

renad!'s avatar

you know what. i have issues.. i keep thinking maybe something important is in there. but the unread ones ?? you kind of have a point, let me go do that rq.

Patrick Orum's avatar

But what if one of them is important?!

;-)

renad!'s avatar

then i wouldn’t know i had it to begin with

Jenn Linton's avatar

My howls of laughter while reading this piece got dirty looks for disrupting my family's traditional Saturday night watching of RiffTrax (a US snarky streaming commentary on old B horror movies). Thank you. Usually our Saturday nights consist of my gray frizzball barking at my family for their shrieks of laughter while watching RiffTrax. While I doomscroll and try not to scream in fury at my country's latest shit show. So this was a nice change of pace.

I'm glad you finally got a usable sink strainer. Though now the drain pipe gremlins might get hungry and take revenge.

Also, my partner has nearly zero emails (definitely zero unread, all the others are sorted in folders) while I have thousands and thousands of unread emails. I think that's why we get along so well. Around Christmas I gave up and deleted all the unread "primary" messages, and every single "promotional" and "social" email. Now it's thousands again.

Hang in there.

Stevie Martin's avatar

I never thought to just go big and delete a whole folder. I must have 100,000 in each one. Do I dare???????

Readout_Noise's avatar

"Don’t ask me how many unread emails I have in my inbox, because the answer is 560."

Gotta pump those numbers up. Those are rookie numbers in this racket. I myself, I have 7061.

Gina's Space's avatar

two things:

- I hate the theme of this post.

- Jordy and I also have a bin night song (????). Can you voice note me yours?

Stevie Martin's avatar

hahahahaha yes

Gina's Space's avatar

stevie nooo "flat foods (tagliatelle! Spinach when flat! Slices of garlic!) to slide underneath and down the plug hole"

Gina's Space's avatar

"me thinking about the food slipping down the pipes, the spinach thwapping against the metal" AHHHHHHHHH

Gina's Space's avatar

"while doing the final dishes of the evening, I tried to catch bits of plum tomato with my hands" IM NOT JOKING I'VE ACTUALLY CHOSEN TO STOP READING

Stevie Martin's avatar

IM SO SORRY GINA

Katherine's avatar

I recognise myself so much in this so thank you for making me laugh instead of cry at myself. 🤣 also re emails to make you feel better - mine is over 20k 😭

Katherine's avatar

Okay Stevie I just checked I have over 70k unread emails across all my accounts 🤢 I think i just throw it all away and go to a forest.

Bruce Dessau's avatar

Re: emails. Your partner is completely normal.

Stevie Martin's avatar

hahahahaha ok whatever helps you sleep at night

Patrick Orum's avatar

Yeh, he’s not is he. We wish he was ;-)

Simon Griffiths's avatar

Better not mention this amazing strainer I bought off Temu. Bag that hangs off a frame on the side of the sink, catches food but lets liquid flow through. Bio degradable.

Love Crowded House, saw them live at Wembley Arena back when I lived in London, amazing gig with a Māori dance troupe.

All the best for second half of the tour. Looking forward to Cardiff 😀👍

Stevie Martin's avatar

So glad I’m coming back to Cardiff!!! Going to make sure I go to the market this time

Simon Griffiths's avatar

Get some laverbread while you’re there 👍

Simon Griffiths's avatar

Amazing Laver Bread there. Ashton’s fish stall in the market, buy some bacon and cockles and you’ll be sorted 🤣

TFK Bird's avatar

I have visceral sense memories of the sink strainer in mum's big special sink she was so proud of and how horrid it felt when I had to scrape my nails on the sink bottom to hoik it out and empty it. Ugh. I'm very envious of your knight condom and your helpful partner, and I am glad that you have them both.

Thank you for sharing your experience of navigating struggles on such varied scales; it was interesting to reflect on what I struggle with myself and what I take for granted. On top of that it's funny and engaging: what a lucky thing I am!

Brent Daniel Schei/Hagen's avatar

Just when you think, “Ok, the world’s problems are too big for me. I’m just gonna focus on the change I can affect in my own life,” you find yourself with eight sink strainers, none of which fit. Yep … those are the moments that honestly can drive me the craziest too. Maybe this why making tea is so common—it’s pretty hard to f#<% that up, so we can still feel capable of accomplishing SOMEthing.

I watched/listened to your conversation with Russel Howard the other day. (Always appreciate anything that takes the edge off sink-strainer tension or makes washing dishes easier.) Writing a novel is a goal I share. I’m publishing my own serially here on Substack, most of which was written during the pandemic—It’s an unusual work that I think of as a modern mythology and, considering the state of things, not especially humorous tho not devoid of it. I hope.

Anyhoo, all of this is to say that writing a novel is an incredible challenge, so writing short stories has been helpful. (Such as the one linked below with a hopefully not unpleasant audio version.)

In any case, thanks as always for your writing, Stevie. It’s a balm in trying times. 🙏

https://substack.com/@theisolationchronicle/note/c-146360515?r=18ckyz&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=notes-share-action

Ziggy's avatar

Misread the title as skin strainer, slightly disappointed by the piece